Essays by Ekowa
my Man at?
A brief study on Black Men, Black Women and the roles we play.
According to the Bible - From the dust of the ground, the root of
mankind, ‘The Adam’ was created.
God created them in his own image: in the image of God created he them, male and
female." Gen. 1:27
It is said, ‘As many a preacher has said: Adam's wife was not
made from his head to be over him, or his foot as to be beneath him, but from
his side to be equal, by his heart, she is bone of his bone’.
“...and the man said: at last! This is bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh. She is to be called woman [Isha] because she was taken out of man [Ish].'
after the 'fall' of man his mate would be named Chavvah the Hebrew name for the
female unit, and she was to be help for her mate, Adam the compliment to him.
he called his wife Chavvah [Life], because she was the mother of all
living." Gen. 3: 20.
Hebraic name for the 'first' Biblical woman is Chavvah. in Amharic [Ethiopian]
it is Hawan, both mean Life, similar to the Hebrew La' Chiam, where Chai mean
us look at the word help-meet and find out what it means. Our concept is
that wherever the man does we must help - without question, but is that so?
The Hebrew word for the HELP function is Avar. Ironically the
Hebrew word for Meet is also Avar, so in
this case her role is doubled. She is the Avar-Avar.
As does it mean to help?
To assist, rally around, facilitate
Succor – to comfort and support.
Chavvah’s character was not just as Avar or protector, aid or
helper, but Avar-Avar!
name indicates your intrinsic value."
Her intrinsic value as an Avar-Avar being is multiplied or
magnified according to the root of her functional name. His name for
her was LIFE, so that LIFE was to be a Helping-Helper, a Comforting-Comforter,
and a Ministering-Minister for the unit.
A sukkah [feminine meaning] is a hut or lair, booth, cottage, pavilion, tabernacle or tent, form the word Soke [cok] a hut or entwined boughs.
as to entwine like a fence, to cover or a covering, to defend, hedge, join
together, shut up.
This goes back to the Hebrew picture of Beth, Bat, Bet - the letter and number meaning, daughter, wife, home, house, two.
original Sukkoth Festival held in the fall was in
Terah lived 70 years, and begat Abram, Nahor and Haran…And Haran died before
his Father Terah in the land of his nativity, in Ur of the Chaldees…And Terah
took Abram his son and Lot the son of Haran his son’s son (grandson), and
Sarai his daughter-in-law, his son Abrams wife; and they went forth with them
form Ur of the Chaldees to go into the land of Canaan; and they dwelt there.
And the days of Terah were 205 years; and Terah died in
that forebears, vacant, ceasing, state of the deadness. It is the word for
flabby or inactive."
Hebrew word for the city
How does this add up to a bigger spiritual meaning?
And how did Abraham the Father of the faithful end up in
the Hebrew Texts - Abram was told earlier to get out of the city and move
away from his people. He did one (move) but not the other (get away from
your family) in that he took his time. Eventually, Abram moved away with his
immediate family. But, not until his brother and father were dead.
out of thy country and from
they kindred, and from thy father’s house, unto a land that I will show
Getting back to the main point, a woman, in this case Chavvah, in
the same fashion was the helping-helper but, according to the scriptures,
she succumbed to the temptation of the adversary and was out of balance of Yah
and could not warn her husband of the impending danger posed by the
Do you really think that Adam was unaware? The Bible says Chavvah was completely deceived!
Do you think everything [in her perfect body, mind and spirit] was completely deceived?
How could that be?
How can we understand this Biblical conundrum?
If you disengage the Comforter then you can wreak havoc in the
Garden and that is what happened. The Help-Meet was attacked and her equal
opposite was daydreaming, or mesmerized, from that the system of Help-meet was
What about the flip side?
By the same token any woman can be over-protective or too
much of a Help for their mate, causing the man to become a perpetual children.
This control has crippled fathers, husbands, sons and families just
as much as timidity, ignorance and aloofness can. Yes, we have had to
be strong - but sometimes our strength is like iron and if we just sit back
SOMETIMES and let our men be men, then we will all be better off.
one told me that:
women raise their daughters, but love their sons.'
those cases the sons are the substitute for the absent or emotionally
unavailable spouse. We do a disservice to the Blackman and to the world
that needs his insight by crippling men and making them perpetual 'Mama’s
Boys'. Are we educating our sons to rule the world? Or are we
over-nurturing them to be under subjection to the world?
Woman can raise a boy, but only a Father can raise a Man!'
don’t write me using the phrase ‘I was Mother and Father to my children.’ B___S___!
Impossible! You were wonderful MOTHER put in the position of leadership
in your household, but you could never be the Father. It's like a donut
tire the manufacturer gives us as a spare tire for a car. It will run, but it
isn’t supposed to be the main tire.
The March 2003 edition of Newsweek’s cover claims that there are
an increasing number of Black women who have turned away from Black men based on
economic factors. Black women are being professionally exalted above Black
men. This is not anything new, this tactic is to divide and conquer, has
spanned the last 400 years. Exalt the Black woman and devalue the Blackman.
Sista’s wake up!
1. What difference does it make if your man is a mailman or a
doctor if he treats you like a queen?
2. Why is it necessary to always have a suit on or a degree
to be a good man?
3. When has the measure of a man been based on the size of his
The only GAP is to understand the system that alienates us from
our equal opposite and misunderstanding your designation as the Avar-Avar.
Check this out.
Once consigned to menial work, black women have ascended to the professional-managerial class…Such questions are now being debated because black men and women are, increasingly, following different paths.
As choreographer Fatima Robinson put it:
“I love brothers ... But there is such a gap that I think I may not end up with a black man.”
Sisters...What has happened?
When you do not have YOUR god-given, Equal Opposite by your side then you are a 'ship without a rudder or a sail'. Adrift in a
Because of the System of White Supremacy that has truly divided the original Adam-unit, sisters are saying;
‘I love Brothers…but?'
butt won’t bring forth -from your womb -the powerful men and women Yah
intended to be on the planet at this time!
The European concept of a successful man! There ain't one -
because the European has always tried to imitate your man...the Original Man!
And the European woman is trying to take your place!
Another fact is, do we understand the reality that the ones who
would be our husbands have been locked away in Prison? Why are we not
protesting that sad detail? Why are more young Black men going to prison
than to college! Why?
The Son's of God
I was talking to a young Black woman who was getting ready to
marry a Caucasian man, because as she put it:
are circumventing the acrostic poem Proverbs 31…read it and understand this
was a Blackman (Solomon), schooled by his Black mother, Bath-Sheba (the House of
Sheba/Saba), speaking to us across the centuries about the able or virtuous
word for woman, family or house is Beth/Bath as we have
discussed earlier, which even in Egyptian is BTY meaning wife or
house. According to some Hebrew and Egyptian scholars BTY refers to The
House and is representative of the woman, because you cannot have a home
without a woman. Bithya or Bithyah was the name of the Pharonic princess that
adopted Moses. She was the house of Yah as a princess of the Egyptian
Pharaoh, the one that took Moses into his house. [See Moses]
second letter in the Hebrew Alphabet is the Bet, b or the house with an open
door. This bet is blessing and creation, the house where LIFE lives.
he shall atone for himself and his house’ Lev.
refers to the High priest on Yom Kippur the Day of Atonement, before he could
atone for the sins of
can find a Virtuous (able) woman? For her price is far above Rubies!’ Proverbs
word ruby is a misinterpretation, it is actually red or pink pearls found
in the deepest part of the
‘The heart of her husband does safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She works to bring him good, not harm, all the days of her life.’
children rise up and call her blessed, and so does her husband.’
is an able woman! Can a woman that is not the Blackman’s equal opposite,
inspire him in the same manner? Can anyone but a sister help him to rule the
Answer for yourself:
We need divine direction in order to be the helping-Helpers in our
relationships. If not, we will be alone and miserable and destructive;
even married without understanding our commission and direction from Yah.
We can become miserable and destructive, transferring that inordinate control
over our sons and breeding daughters who do not understand the role of a Queen,
as Bath-Sheba. We end up making all of them unhappy and unsuitable as mates,
making boyish-men and Manish-women.
We have historically looked at Chavvah as just: A mother, sex partner to Adam, the glorified maid, the one who brought darkness in the world by her sin, according to some medieval Rabbi’s and has to relight the way in the ritual of lighting the candles at Sabbath and the Feasts.
But, her husband called her LIFE!
The Ankh the symbol of [womb] Life
woman was the first to be given the promise of bring the Messiah in the world in
Genesis, the woman was the first to make the connection the Yahshua was Messiah,
and the woman was the first to see him first at his resurrection.
Men are from Mars and Women from Venus and we cannot agree on anything, we
are diametrically opposed and we must find a commonality to agree on.
and Woman are the same, in all aspects and a family can survive with one or
the other, which is the point of Lesbian and Male Homosexual union.
Both concepts are erroneous and dangerous.
we understand the original truth of the man-woman unit we see the image of Yah
walked the earth in the creation of The Adam. When we begin to understand
Yah’s purpose and why any deviation from this purpose is called Sin, like
homosexuality, bestiality, pedophilia, and narcissus (masturbation/self-love)
and all of their corrupt forms.
men and women are joined in marriage it is as a unit; and the Two must be
brought together to form the ONE image and likeness of Yah the
'Yah created mankind in his own image; in the image of Yah created he him; male and female he created them.’ Gen. 1:27
Yin and Yang is a concept that tries to explain the intricacies of that union.
The man and woman combination was the image of Yah, and in Him there was no
darkness [evil or misunderstanding]. They were equal opposites. The
male-Adam being the head of the unit and the female-Adam being the second in
command. I will go into that in another essay. But suffice it to say, when
understood properly this combination and the hierarchy of Male/Female does work
your right hand and place it palm side down then place your left hand over your
right hand palm down. The thumbs should be on opposite sides of one
another but all the other fingers should be line up on top of another.
They are the same hands, side by side with each thumb touching the other, but
when placed in the above manner they become equal opposites. That is man
and woman…or better that was Ish and Isha, the ones that are equal and a
compliment and not adversarial to one another.
minister once told me that in Hebrew, when the word Ish that is the word for
man, and Isha the word for woman are fused together; in the center of the new
word is the name of God/Yah. Yah is represented by the h
or Hey. When the h is removed from the conglomerate a name, a new word is
formed, FIRE, a consuming fire, similar to a Holocaust, this is the consuming
fire of a Sacrifice.
When the word says that Ish KNEW his wife, Isha, it was as though there was a mystery inherent in this type of KNOWING. The mystery is revealed in Yahshua. It was more than procreation. It was a supernatural intimacy that goes farther than sex and is far above a 'Quickie' or "One Night stand or Booty Call!
To Know and to be Known is divine and spiritual.
Ephesians 5:23 - ‘For the husband is the head of the wife, as Messiah is the head of the ecclesia and he is the savior of the body (of Messiah). Therefore as the ecclesia is subject unto Messiah, so let the wives be subject to their own husband in everything. Husbands love your wives, even as Messiah loves the ecclesia, and gave himself for it (the ecclesia); That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of the water by the word. That he present to himself a glorious ecclesia not having a spot (sacrifice) or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be Kodesh and without blemish.
Note: The Greek word Ecclesia is the church. The Hebrew word
should be the assembly of the called-out believers.
"For we are member of his body, of his flesh and of his bones…this is a great mystery, I speak concerning Messiah and the ecclesia.
What are the spots, wrinkles and blemishes and to what do they relate?
Heb. 934,8549 – Bohereth – a whitish spot on the skin,
a bright spot. A shinning, bright spot. Tamiym - entire, without
blemish, integrity and truth, complete full, undefiled.
look at what he is saying. This is interesting.
Tammiym is one or the epithets of the objects in the high-priest breastplate as an emblem of complete truth. The jewels on the breastplate symbolized all the tribes of
Tamam – to complete whether good or bad, accomplish the sum (shew); the right hand.
remember, earlier when the High Priest had to first atone for himself and his WIFE
(house) before he could go in and atone for the sins of all
A symbol of complete truth – the woman was to be the truth of the man.
have always believed that a woman will magnify what a man gives her especially
–Grk. 4512 Rhutis – A fold or a wrinkle – Rhumai, to
rush or to draw, a current, rescue of deliver. To flow or run like water.
7059? – Qamat - to pluck to destroy or cut down to fill with
wrinkles. Wither (like a grape into a raisin)
– Grk #299 – Amomos – fault or a spot, disgraceful, a flaw or
blot (1Peter 1:19 uses same word) Heb. #8549 – see Tamiym above.
These spots, wrinkles and blemishes are related to the
speak of the breastplate of the high priest and the truth -Emet or the
Egyptian Maat (who is represented by a female, like the Greek Sophia used in the
New Testament) and integrity it took to be the perfect one as Yahshua is to us.
"Clothed with strength and dignity, she can laugh at the days to come. When she opens her mouth, she speaks wisely; on her tongue is loving instruction. She watches over things in her house, not eating the bread of idleness…many woman have done wonderful things, but you surpass them all. Charm can lie, beauty can vanish, but a woman who fears Yah, should be praised. Give her a share in what she produces; let her works speak her praises at the city gates.’ Proverbs 31
man's mind is elevated to the status of the women with whom he associates."
Edited by: Dr. K. Echengi Limbere
Wisdom of the Hebrew Alphabet – Munk
Webster’s Collegiate Dictionary Strong Exhaustive Concordance
Encarta - 2002
Numbers in Scripture - Bullinger
Newsweek Magazine – March 2003
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